The very first explanation is the fact that a huge instability of money investing risks switching the partnership from the collaborative, loving one into a “market one” (see the psychology in Predictably Irrational).
2nd is once you demand way too much too quickly it’s either you wind up with a puppet or you’ll drive the cool dudes away.
Funny sufficient, some males may even comply to women’s request, however resent you for this. A good example from the Dating into The Dark episode:
Note: demands and investment are often a relevant question of balance.
- Men appreciate ladies who state a genuine many thanks when they’re invited
- Men appreciate ladies who provide to separate -even if he eventually ends up spending when you look at the end-
- Cool dudes don’t appreciate women that expect you’ll be invited and don’t give you thanks
The mistake she made and, later on, Ted decides whose girl he wants to see again here’s an example from How I Met Your Mother: Ted explains her date.
It’s tongue in cheek, but predicated on truth.
# 3. Concentrate on Getting Decidedly More, Maybe Not on Balance
NO Begets NO; YES Begets YES
Here is the smaller sibling associated with the above.